Now now, this post title might sound like I’m protesting a government but I’m not. The system I’m referring to is the relationship system and what I mean by that is in today’s instant gratification or shallow society some men have adopted systems to get women.
Nothing makes me more embarrassed about my gender than the fact that there are books, DVDs, seminars and courses about this. However, usually these resources have the specific aim of getting a woman in bed and nothing more. Relationships are human emotions not a scientific formulae.
The 1st terrible thing about this is that the formula is based on dishonesty since the goal is to get the girl and what better way to do that than psychological manipulation. The man usually has to present himself as something he’s not and you can’t keep up a lie indefinitely.
The 2nd is something that should be obvious but sadly it isn’t. Get ready for it, the woman is an individual! “Of course she is, you moron" some of you might be saying. Thing is, if you’re planning or are using a system you clearly don’t understand the concept of an individual.
You see, in a system there has to be constant variables for it to be efficient. By this, you have to assume all women respond in a highly predictable manner to how you’re acting. As an individual, she is going to respond in a way that is unique to her being.
The problem with this systematic approach to women is that men who do this treat the whole relationship process like a game where the woman is the final end game boss where he has to remember certain patterns and combos to make her submit defeat. What those guys don’t realise is that in reality the girl is a potential co-op player whom you need to defeat the real boss (whatever that may be).
Therefore in any relationship whether romantic, platonic or work-related; honesty is the best policy.
Disclaimer: I’m not a social scientist nor a feminist. This post goes both ways, male and female. It just seems more prevalent with men.
